This is for two situations: when you are grieving, and when someone you care about is.
Ten prompts for your own grief
Write a line or two for any that feel right. Skip the rest.
- 1. Today, the thing I miss most is…
- 2. A memory that makes me smile is…
- 3. Something I wish I had said is…
- 4. Right now, my body feels…
- 5. The hardest time of day is…
- 6. Something that helped me today was…
- 7. I feel angry or guilty about…
- 8. One person I can lean on is…
- 9. A small thing I can do for myself this week is…
- 10. If they could see me now, I think they would say…
What to say to someone who is grieving
| Instead of | Try |
|---|---|
| “Be strong.” | “You do not have to be strong with me.” |
| “They are in a better place.” | “I am so sorry. I am here.” |
| “I know how you feel.” | “I cannot imagine. Tell me about them.” |
| “Let me know if you need anything.” | “I am bringing food on Thursday. Is that okay?” |
Practical ways to help
- Check in after the funeral, when the crowd has gone home.
- Offer specific help: meals, school runs, errands.
- Mention the person by name. Most people want to hear it.
- Remember dates that may be hard: birthdays and anniversaries.
When grief needs more support
If intense grief is not easing after several months, or daily life feels impossible, speak to a counsellor. If there are thoughts of ending a life, contact Befrienders Kenya today on +254 722 178 177.
Need to talk to someone? Your first 30-minute session with a licensed Kenyan counsellor is free. Book it here. If you are in distress right now, call Befrienders Kenya on +254 722 178 177. This guide is general information, not a substitute for professional care.